2011年4月28日星期四

讓大家一同來縮短 與孩子、家人、朋友間心與心的距離吧

刚收到台湾麻吉tracy的email,分享这篇非常棒的文章,我copy了放在这里...

[讓大家一同來縮短,與孩子、家人、朋友間心與心的距離吧!]


為什麼人生氣時,說話是用喊的?(很棒的解釋)


One day, a professor asked his students 'Why do we SHOUT instead of speak when we are ANGRY?'




All the students thought for a while. One answered 'Because we lost our cool. That's why we SHOUT.'



Asked the professor again, 'But the person is just right next to you, why can't we talk softly but have to SHOUT?'




Everyone gave their opinions but none was accepted by the professor





Lastly explained by the professor 'When we are ANGRY, our hearts drift apart. To mask the DISTANCE we felt, we instinctively SHOUT instead of speak so the other party can hear us.'



'But as we SHOUT, we get ANGRIER. And we felt we drift apart further. So we SHOUT even louder...'

'It is the opposite when we are in love. Not only we do not shout, we whisper into each other ears. Why?'



'This is because our hearts are very close, almost never apart. As our love deepen, we reach a state of communication where there is no need for words.'


'We understand each other well enough just by exchanging look,' concluded the professor.







'Therefore, when we are arguing, DO NOT speak words that will make our hearts drift apart. WAIT a few days. When you feel your hearts are no longer far apart, pick up the conversation and continue from there.




12 条评论:

  1. 有些人的远距离的恋爱都是苦中带甜,虽然距离遥远,但是心与心的距离是那么的近,反而有些常在一起的情侣和住在一起的夫妻就少了那种心与心之间的距离。

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  2. 很好的一篇文章...

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  3. 我。。。。
    要学习不可以再喊了!!!
    但是。。。
    好像很难做到咧~~~

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  4. 我真的上到宝贵的一课。。
    谢谢你Joelyn!!

    我要努力~~

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  5. 靓靓---e起---Janet----Shan---:-
    不客气,看到很有意义就放上来,我想对很多人都有帮助吧?至少在情绪上面。。。

    SUSAN----
    对,很认同你的说法,我想心里要时常保持着感恩&珍惜心吧?就好象我和C sir,虽然每天一起但心很近很近,我时时刻刻都对自己内心充满满足心,时常都会想起他对我的好,拿掉他对我的坏哦。。。+多-少哦。。。。哈哈



    平淡---
    不难不难,事在人为哦,亲爱的,我算算我应该有将近4年没喊了,之前的我。。唉,不谈不谈,只看未来。。。我要发脾气时我都会跟自己说冷静冷静,一喊下去就真的什么ABC都出来,绝对不能像泼妇骂街那样,真的真的很丑陋很难看,要发脾气时照照镜子就会发现镜子的人很陌生哦。。。呵呵呵,加油,你可以做到的哦。。。



    小爱----
    大家一起努力吧,我可以做到,你们一定可以的,万事起头难,但有心不怕迟哦。。。。加油加油加油哦。。。。

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  6. 我把它念给老爷听。。。老爷有细心听哦~。。哈哈。。
    就这样一点点。。一滴滴。。。我深信心和心比较靠近一些些了吧~

    谢谢你~

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  7. 小爱,别那么客气,其实有时侯就是两人太近了,时常要用喊的来拉近距离,有时侯是特地的喊高声量,我之前就是这样,讲话时常拉高声量,就自己故意的,但是每次都搞到自己很累,他也累。。。久而久之心就远了。。。现在的我改变很多了。。。

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  8. joelyn,我肥来了~
    一回来就读了一篇文让我明白为什么我时常发脾气。。
    真得谢谢您的分享~
    你可以email给我吗?
    jennylcc@hotmail.com

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  9. Jenny---哇!总算回来咯,期待你post的照片哦。。。最好tomyam的放多几张给我看看,嗅嗅哦。。。。哈哈哈哈哈
    p/s:好的,已经email过去了,把它分享给你亲爱的家人和朋友吧。。。。

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